How to Romanticize Your Life

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Over the last few years with the increased time at home, the phrase “romanticize your life” and tapping into your “main character energy” have become increasingly popular on social media, and for good reason. Far too often do we get sucked into the tasks of everyday life and focus far too much on what’s next that we rarely sit back and reflect on all the good in our lives. We need to look at all of the moments in our day from a place of beauty, no matter how mundane they might be.

Since I work from home and spend most of my time here, romanticizing my life gives me the opportunity to treat myself with kindness every day and do things that make me happy so I can treat myself with more love.

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How to Romanticize Your Life

Being a little extra selfish and romanticizing your life might seem easy to do, but when you actually take the steps to romanticize your life, it can seem a little frivolous. But, it doesn’t have to feel like that. Remember, we’re leaning into the good in our lives, no matter how small those things might be. As I continue to work on this, I wanted to share some of my favorite ways to romanticize my life so you can start making the most of your life!

How to Romanticize Your Life

Appreciate What You Already Have

Take a few minutes every morning to write down what you’re grateful for (love this notebook for doing this!). Whether you had a good night’s sleep, had your ideal morning, indulged in a coffee and baked good from your local pastry shop, or are just HAPPY, write it down. The point of this exercise is to shift your focus away from material items and wants and to just be happy for the things you already have in your life and appreciate.

Some things I’ve recently been grateful for are slow mornings, a partner that supports my dreams, the ability to have a flexible schedule, cold brew (#iykyk), and jalapeño cream cheese (my kryptonite). 

P.S. 5 Things Bringing Me Joy

Take Your Time

Sometimes I feel like we live in a world of “if you’re busy, you’re successful” and I’ve come to realize that simply isn’t true. Rushing from one appointment to the next, filling our days with back-to-back engagements, and feeling like we’re always behind simply isn’t enjoyable. If you’re constantly finding yourself in a hurry, here is your sign to schedule in an extra 15 (or 30!) minutes between events, engagements, and anything else you have going on so you can just take your time. Maybe this means you finally have time to actually take in your surroundings. Maybe it means stopping for a quick coffee.

By moving a little more slowly, you’ll be able to enjoy the transition from one task to the next.

Pick Up a Book Instead of Your Phone

We all spend so much time on technology and taking a break from it feels so good. Next time you go to pick up your phone to doom scroll Instagram, pick up a book instead! Not only does it give your eyes/brain a rest, but it helps with mental health and is a great way to wind down.

If you’re trying to read more, a great way to achieve this goal is to have a book with you at all times! Instead of scrolling through your phone while waiting in line at the grocery store, for a friend, or on public transportation, pick up your book instead. You’ll be shocked at how much more you’ll be able to read and how much better you’ll feel.

Create Your Ideal Morning Routine

There’s no denying that watching the aesthetically pleasing morning routine videos on TikTok aren’t mesmerizing. Every time I watch one, I dream of the perfect morning routine. Newsflash: creating your ideal morning routine IS possible. Start by writing down everything you want to achieve each morning and what your ideal morning looks like. From here, figure out what time you have to wake up to get through everything you want before your kids get up or before you have to go to work.

How you spend your morning can have a huge impact on how the rest of the day goes, and don’t you want to start your day off on the right foot?

Date Yourself

I first started dating myself post-college when I moved into an apartment with three other girls (mayhem). I’d take myself out to dinner, grab a drink, and wander around the city, among other things, to get out of the house and spend some quality time with myself. It’s one habit I have continued over the years and it’s something that’s a non-negotiable for me. I might not go out on dates with myself as often as I did before, but they’re still my favorite thing to do for myself.

Bring Fresh Flowers into Your Space

I think we can all agree that there’s something about fresh flowers that makes you so happy. Seriously, when was the last time you walked by a fresh bouquet of flowers on your table and didn’t smile? Head to your favorite flower shop (or local grocery store!) and pick up a bundle.

Local to the Boston area? Rouvalis Flowers (pictured above), Table & Tulip, and Rococo Floral Co. (doing our wedding flowers!) are a few of my favorite flower shops!

Plan Your Perfect Day

Stop waiting until friends or family are visiting you to plan your perfect day! Plan a day for yourself filled with all of your favorite things. Treat yourself to brunch, explore your city, visit a museum you’ve been wanting to go to, stop into your favorite boutiques, get a blowout. The opportunities are truly endless. I love planning a perfect day once a quarter as a special way to dive into all of my favorite things Boston has to offer.

Compliment Yourself

With social media, it can be hard not to compare yourself to others. I get it. But at the end of the day, you are your own person and you should be embracing that. Ditch the negative self-talk and start complimenting yourself.

You are beautiful. You are smart. You are kind. You are generous. You are loving.

Send a Handwritten Note to a Loved One

Go analog with your communication with your family and friends! A handwritten note is such a fun and special thing to receive in the mail and it’ll light up your loved ones’ faces to receive one from you. Plus, it’s a fun way to step away from technology and get back to basics.

Burn the Candle

Stop waiting for the perfect moment to light those expensive candles. JUST. LIGHT. THEM. There’s no better way to treat yourself than with a candle that you love, burning, and enjoying a glass of wine. Just saying!

Give Your Space a Refresh

What is it about giving your space a refresh or just moving a few things around that make things so exciting? Before placing an order on decor, pillows, blankets, art, and the like, start by shopping your own home. Are there pieces in your living room you can bring into your bedroom? Are their pieces that would work well in your kitchen or office space? Don’t be afraid to move things around! This is a fun way to refresh your space without spending money.

If you do want to do some shopping, consider switching out your pillows, throw blankets, and small decor pieces. This will keep the refresh budget-friendly!

Treat Yourself to a Special Morning Beverage

As someone who always loved going out for coffee in the morning and then switching to an at-home coffee girly, treating myself to a special morning beverage is an extra treat I savor and look forward to all week. I love doing this on Fridays as a “congrats you made it through the week!” reward but honestly, having a special morning beverage any day of the week (or every day of the week!) is a great way to start the day on a good note.

Be Mindful with Your Schedule

Being intentional with your time, setting boundaries, and being mindful of your schedule are all things that don’t come naturally to a lot of people but they are things that make a huge impact on your mental health. Stop overscheduling yourself, know when to say no, and do things for you. By doing this, I promise you’ll see a change in how you sleep, how you feel, and how you work.

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  1. 9.7.22

    Love this list! Every item is so true and so helpful to appreciate and love your life more.

  2. 9.14.22
    Caroline said:

    I love these ideas! Burning candles and creating a nice space to work is a must. Flowers bring me so much joy, so life always feels that little bit nicer with them around too x